April 2, 2008

When in a bad marriage, people often think they have only two options: resign themselves to a life of misery or get out. This myth limits one’s horizons to two equally devastating alternatives. In my book, Loving Solutions, I talk about how to be a positive change agent in a difficult marriage. It is true that you cannot make your spouse change, but you can influence your spouse. The question is: Are you being a positive influence?

One husband said, “I used to have rage in my heart toward my wife, now I realize what a wonderful wife I have.” Her positive actions stimulated positive emotions in him. With warm emotions, his behavior also changed. Learning the power of positive influence could radically change your marriage. You need not be miserable forever.

Today's A Growing Marriage Daily content has been written by Dr. Gary Chapman and is based on the book Loving Solutions by Dr. Gary Chapman. Published by Moody Publishers, copyright 1998. Used by permission.